somehow these ‘dreamers’ do not think it necessary to have paid their dues as it were, and so there they sit on the divan awaiting the phone call with the good news. Not too many contracts are handed out to those lacking the years of toil and learning that is required to obtain the key to the executive restroom! It is curious where such ego comes from, not to forget the reluctance to work hard to make the grade. There is no doubt that unless endowed with an inheritance that leaves you as a chief executive officer, or a family member is tired of seeing you making a dent in the divan, that it is close to impossible for any wool gatherer to ever see any sort of job. This personality trait usually means that they are not motivated nor are they capable of holding on to a position for any length of time. So in a very short while after taking employment, they are seeking another place to work and end up unemployed as no boss is going to put up with that attitude for very long. Was this drawn from a decision, or being use to having to do nothing for your wants and desires? Spoiling a child can and does lead to such dysfunctional behavior and lackadaisical attitude. Giving them all they want is definitely what so often leads to such a spirit of entitlement and hence a non-motivated individual who does not keep a job, as interest wanes in little time. I have not seen this disposition reversed and insomuch as it is a ‘hand-made’ characteristic it is so woven into to muscle and sinew of a child for so long that it is the dominant personality trait. Sadly, this one will have to be lived with unless inroads can be made into this person’s psyche wherein reason can become a penetrating force to dislodge the stubborn nature that now prevails. A decision was made, whether deliberately or inadvertently this lies on the ones responsible for the rearing of this child. I find it in many cases to be laziness on the adults part, it is easier for them to give in than to have to correct the child and reprimand if necessary. Obviously, there was a decision made to be so lenient on the child that to spoil the little one was the choice. I will add not a good choice, for it is difficult for a spoiled child to enter in with a group of children and adjust to the group mentality of sharing and cooperating. The adjustment period, if there ever is one can take an extremely long time and be a grueling experience for the child in question. In the process there is the chance that there will be rivalries that can lead to complications, and depending on the person or persons in charge someone could get hurt. Hopefully there are keen eyes keeping a close watch on all the comings and goings. The word no is one that should be learned from the start, and taught so that no pouting is allowed. No, for the most part is for the child’s own good, as in stopping a toddler from running out into the street, and I needn’t take that any further! “Do not touch that” is still another phrase that has it’s merit, especially if the child is ready to handle a priceless antique! My sister has good advice for any new parents who didn’t think teaching obedience necessary…She asks, ”What if your child were playing with a loaded gun and proceeded to point it at you or him or herself? Would it be put down immediately when you said to do so?” The consequences of what could happen when a child is undisciplined in such a way are unthinkable. It is a good lesson for parents and hopefully one they will take very seriously. CHAPTER EIGHT BAD NEWS The news is filled with stories of those unfortunate souls who made poor decisions, and then there are also those despicable people who made horrendous decisions and did harm to others. On an everyday basis there are the wondrous and outrageous tales of great heroism and unspeakable acts of absolute evil. Each one is stemmed from a decision either positive or negative made by the individual who, for lack of a better word, performed the deed. Three cheers for those who unselfishly did what was needed in order to help a situation have a happy ending. Unfortunately,….